11. The Book on Marriage
What Has Been Related About The Virtues Of Marriage And Encouraging It
Abu Ayyub narrated that : The Messenger of Allah said: "Four are from the Sunan of the Messengers: Al-Hayat, using Atar, the Siwak, and marriage." Abdullah bin Mas'ud narrated: "We went with Allah's Messenger, while we were young men who had nothing. He said: 'O young men! You should marry, for indeed it helps in lowering the gaze and protecting the private parts. Whoever among you is not able to marry, then let him fast, for indeed fasting will diminish his sexual desire."
What Has Been Related About The Prohibition Of Celibacy
Qatadah narrated from Al-Hasan, from Samurah that: The Prophet prohibited celibacy. Sa'eed bin Al-Musayyab narrated from Sa'b bin Abi Waqqas: "The Messenger of Allah refused Uthman bin Ma'zun (when he asked) regarding celibacy, and if he had permitted it for him, then we would have castrated ourselves."
What Has Been Related About: If You Are Pleased With Someone's Religion Then Marry Him
Abu Hurairah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with proposes to (someone under the care) of one of you, then marry to him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and abounding discord (Fasad)." Abu Hatim Al-Muzani narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you then marry (her to) him. If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and discord (Fasad). If you do not do so, then there will be turmoil (Fitnah) in the land and discord (Fasad)." They said: "O Messenger of Allah! What if there was something about him?"He said: "When someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you then marry him." (And he (pbuh) said this) three times.
What Has Been Related About: One Who Is Married For Three Things
Jabir narrated that: The Prophet said: "Indeed the woman is married for her religion, her wealth, and her beauty, so take the one with religion, and may your hands be dusty."
What Has Been Related About Looking at The Proposed Woman
Bakr bin Abdullah Al-Muzani narrated that : Al-Mughirah bin Shu'bah proposed to a woman, so the Prophet said: "Look at her, for indeed that is more likely to make things better between the two of you."
What Has Been Related About Publicizing The Marriage
Abu Al-Balj narrated from Muhammad bin Hatib Al-Jumahi who said that: The Messenger of Allah said: "The distinction between the lawful and the unlawful is the Duff and the voice." Aishah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "Publicize this marriage, and hold it in the Masjid, and beat the Duff for it." Ar-Rubai bint Muawwidh said: "The morning after the consummation of my marriage, the Prophet came and sat on my bed as far from me as you are sitting now, and our little girls started beating the Duff and reciting verses mourning my father who had been killed in the battle of Badr. One of them said: 'Among us is a Prophet who knows what will happen tomorrow.' On that the Prophet said: 'Stop saying this, and keep on saying what you were saying before.'"
What (Has Been Related About What) To Say To The Newlywed
Abu Hurairah narrated that: When supplicating for the newlywed, the Prophet would say: (Barak Allahu laka wa baraka alaik, wa jama'a bainakuma fi khair.) "May Allah bless you and send blessings upon you, and bring goodness between you."
What Has Been Related About What Is Said When One Has Intercourse With His Wife
Ibn Abbas narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "If anyone of you, when having sexual intercourse with his wife, says: (Bismillah, Allahumma jannibnash-Shaitana wa jannibish-Shaitana ma razaqtana) 'In the Name of Allah, O Allah! Protect me from Shaitan and protect what you bestow upon us from Shaitan' - then if Allah decrees that they should have a child, Shaitan will not be able to harm him.'"
What Has Been Related About The Times In Which Marriage Is Recommended
Aishah narrated: "The Messenger of Allah married me in Shawwal, and he took up residence with me in Shawwal."
What Has Been Related About (Al-Walimah) The Banquet
Anas bin Malik narrated: The Messenger of Allah saw some traces of saffron on `Abdur-Rahman bin `Awf so he said: 'What is this?' He said: 'I married a woman for the amount of gold equal to a date stone.' So he said: 'May Allah bless you. Have a banquet, even if with only one sheep.'" Anas bin Malik narrated: "The Prophet had a banquet for Safiyyah bint Huyayy with Sawiq and dates." (Another chain similar to the narration as no. 1095) : Others have reported this Hadith from Ibn Uyainah, from Az-Zuhri, from Anas, and they did not mention "from Wa'il, from his son Nawf" in it. Ibn Mas'ud narrated that : The Messenger of Allah said: "Having food on the first day is was is obligatory, and having food on the second day is Sunnah, and having food on the third day is to be heard of, and whoever wants to be heard of, Allah will make him heard of."
What Has Been Related About Accepting The Invitation
Ibn Umar narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "Accept the invitation when you are offered."
What Has Been Related About One Who Comes To A Banquet Without An Invitation
Abu Mas'ud narrated: "A man named Abu Shu'aib came to a slave of his, who was a butcher, and said: 'Prepare some food for me that will be sufficient for five, for I have seen hunger in the face of the Messenger of Allah.' So he prepared some food. Then he sent a message to the Prophet inviting him and those who were sitting with him. When the Prophet stood, he was followed by a man who was not with them when they were invited. When the Messenger of Allah arrive at the door he said to the owner of the house: 'A man who was not with us when you invited us followed us, if you permit him, he will enter.'" He said: We have permitted him, let him enter."
What Has Been Related About Marrying Virgins
Jabir bin Abdullah narrated: "I married a woman and went to the Prophet, he said: 'O Jabir! Have you married?' I said: 'Yes.' He said: 'A virgin or a matron?' I said: 'A matron.' He said: 'Why didn't you marry a young girl, so that you may play with her and she with you?' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! Abdullah (his father) died and left behind seven - or nine - daughter, so I have brought someone who can look after them.'" (He said:) "So he supplicated for me."
What Has Been Related About: There Is No Marriage Except With A Wali
Abu Musa narrated that : the Messenger of Allah said: "There is no marriage except with a Wali." Aishah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "Whichever woman married without the permission of her Wali her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid. If he entered into her, then the Mahr is for her in lieu of what he enjoyed from her private part. If they disagree, then the Sultan is the Wali for one who has no Wali."
What Has Been Related About: There Is No Marriage Except With Proof (Bayyinah)
Ibn Abbas narrated that : the Prophet said: "The adulteresses are the ones who marry themselves without Bayyinah (proof)." (Another chain) from Sa'eed bin Abi Arubah, with similar (narration), : And he did not narrate it in Marfu form, and this is more correct.
What Has Been Related About The Marriage Khutbah
Abdullah bin Mas'ud narrated: "The Messenger of Allah taught us the Tashah-hud for Salat and the Tashah-hud for Al-Hajjah." He said: "The Tashah-hud for Salat is: (At-Tahiyyatulilah, was-walawtu wat-tayyibatu. As-Salamu alaika ayyuhan-Nabiyyu wa rahmatullilahi wa barakatuhu, As-Salamu alina wa ala ibadillahis-salihin. Ashahadu an la ilaha illallah, wa ashhadu anna Muhammadan abduha wa Raduluh.) 'All greetings, prayers, and pure words are for Allah. Peace be upon you O Prophet, and Allah's mercy and His blessings. Peace be upon us and all of the righteous worshippers of Allah. I testify that none has the right to be worshiped but Allah. and I testify that Muhammad is His slave and His Messenger."And the Tashah-hud for Al-Hajjah is: 'Indeed all praise is due to Allah, we seek His aid, and we seek His forgiveness, and we seek refuge with Allah from the evils of our souls and the mischief of our deeds. (Innal-Hamdlillahi nasta'inuhu, wa nastaghfirhu, wa na'udhu billahi min sharuri anfusina, wa sayy'ita a'malina, man yahdihi, sala mudilla lahu, wa manyudlil, fala Hadiya lahu, wa ashadu an la ilaha illallah wa ashadu anna Muhammadan abduhu wa Rasuluh) 'Whoever He guides - meaning Allah - then here is none to lead him astray, and whomever He misleads, then there is no guide for him. I testify that none has the right to be worshipped but Allah, and I testify that Muhammad is His worshipper and Messenger.'"He said: "And he recited three Ayat." Abu Hurairah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "Every Khutbah that does not have the Tashah-hud in it, then it is like a severed hand."
What Has Been Related About Seeking The Permission Of The Virgin And The Matron
Abu Hurairah narrated that: The Prophet said: "A matron should not be given in marriage until she is consulted, and a virgin should not be given in marriage until her permission is sought, and her silence is her permission." Ibn Abbas narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "The matron has more right to herself than her Wali, and the virgin is to give permission for herself, and her silence is her permission."
What Has Been Related About Coercing A Female Orphan To Marry
Abu Hurairah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "An orphan is to be consulted about herself, then if she is silent that is her permission, and if she refuses, then do not authorize it (the marriage) for her" (meaning: when she attains the age of puberty and refuses it.)
What Has Been Related About Two Wali Giving The Same Woman In Marriage
Samurah bin Jundab narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "Whichever woman is given in marriage by two Wali, then her case is in accordance with the first of them, and whoever sells something to two men, then it is for the first of them."
What Has Been Related About A Slave Marrying Without The Permission Of His Owner
Jabir bin Abdullah narrated that: The Prophet said: "Whichever slave gets married without the permission of his owner, then he is a fornicator." (Another chain) Jabir bin Abdullah narrated that: Abdullah narrated that the Prophet said: "Whichever slave gets married without the permission of his owner, then he is a fornicator."
What Has Been Related About Women's Dowries
Abdullah bin Amr bin Rabi'ah narrated from his father: "A woman from Banu Fazarah was married for (the dowry of) two sandals. So the Messenger of Allah said to her: 'Do you approve of (exchanging) yourself and your wealth for two sandals?' She said: 'Yes.'" He said: "So he permitted it."
Something Else
Sahl bin Sa'd As-Sa'idi narrated that: A woman came to the Messenger of Allah and said: "I present myself to you (for marriage)." So she stood for a long time. Then a man said: "O Messenger of Allah! Marry her to me if you have no need of her." So he said: "Do you have anything to give her as a dowry?" He said: "I have nothing except this Izar." So the Messenger of Allah said: "If you give her your Izar then you will have no Izar, so search for something." He said: "I did not find anything." He said: "Search for something, even if it just an iron ring." He said: So he searched but he did not find anything. The Messenger of Allah said: "Do you have any Qur'an (memorized)?" He said: "Yes. This Surat and that Surat." And he named the Surat. So the Messenger of Allah said: "I marry her to you for what you have (memorized) of the Qur'an." Abu Al-Ajfa (As-Salami) said: "Umar bin Al-Khattab said: 'Do not exaggerate in the dowries of women. If doing so was honorable in the world or Taqwa before Allah then Allah's Prophet would have been the first of you to do it. I do not know of the Messenger of Allah marrying any of his women, nor giving any of his daughters in marriage, for more than twelve Uqiyah."
What Has Been Related About A Man Who Emancipates A Slave Woman, Then Marries Her
Anas bin Malik narrated: "The Messenger of Allah emancipated Safiyyah and he made her emancipation her dowry."
What Has Been Related About The Virtue Of That
Abu Burdah bin Abi Musa narrated from his father that the Messenger of Allah said: "Three will receive their reward twice: A slave who fulfills the rights of Allah and the rights of his owners, then he will be given his reward twice. And a man who has a beautiful slave girl, so he teaches her good manners, then he frees her, then he married her seeking the Face of Allah by that; then he will be given his reward twice. And a man who believed in an earlier Book, then another Book came to him and he believed in it; then he will be given his reward twice."
What Has Been Related About A Person Who Marries A Woman, Then Divorces Her Before Having Intercourse With Her: Can He Marry Her Daughter Or Not?
Amr bin Shu'aib narrated from his father, from his grandfather that: The Prophet said: "Whichever man married a woman and entered into her, then it is not lawful for him to marry her daughter. If he did not enter into her then he may marry her daughter. And whichever man married a woman and he entered into her, or he did not enter into her, then it is not lawful for him to marry her mother."
: What Has Been Related About One Who Divorced His Wife Three Times, Then She Married Someone Else, And He Divorced Her Before Having Intercourse With Her
Aishah narrated: "The wife of Rifa'ah Al-Qurzi came to the Messenger of Allah and said: 'I was with Rifa'ah and he divorced me irrevocably. Then I married Abdur-Rahman bin Az-Zubair, but he only has the likes of the fringe of a garment.' So he said: 'Perhaps you want me to return to Rifa'ah? No, not until you taste his sweetness, and he tastes your sweetness.'"
What Has Been Related About The Muhill And The One Who The Muhallal Was Done For
Jabir bin Abdullah and Ali narrated: "The Messenger of Allah cursed the Muhill and the one the Muhallal was done for." Abdullah bin Mas'ud narrated: "The Messenger of Allah cursed the Muhill and the one the Muhallal was done for."
What Has Been Related About (The Prohibition of) Mut'ah
Ali bin Abi Talib narrated: "The Prophet prohibited the Mut'ah with women, and the meat of domestic donkeys during (the campaign of) Khaibar." Muhammad bin Ka'b narrated that: Ibn Abbas said: "Mut'ah was only during the beginning of Islam. A man would arrive in a land that he was not familiar with so he would marry a woman for the extent of time that he thought he would remain there. So his Mut'ah was upheld and his case was fine until the (following) Ayah was revealed: Except their wives or what their right hands possess. Then every private part other than those became unlawful."
What Has Been Related About The Prohibition Of The Shigar Marriage
Imran bin Husain narrated that : The Prophet said: "There is no Jalab, no Janab, and no Shighar in Islam. And whoever takes some property by force, then he is not from us." Ibn Umar narrated: "The Prophet prohibited Shighar."
What Has Been Related About: A Woman Should Not Be Married Along With Her Paternal Aunt Nor Her Maternal Aunt
Ibn Abbas narrated: "The Prophet prohibited marrying a woman along with her paternal aunt or along with her maternal aunt." Abu Hurairah narrated: "The Messenger of Allah prohibited that a woman be married along with her paternal aunt, or the paternal aunt along with her brother's daughter, or a woman with her maternal aunt, or the maternal aunt along with her sister's daughter, and the younger is not to be married with the older, nor the older with the younger."
What Has Been Related About Conditions When Contracting A Marriage
Uqbah bin Amir Al-Juhani narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "Indeed the conditions most deserving to be fulfilled are those that make the private parts lawful among you."
What Has Been Related About A Man Who Accepted Islam While Having Ten Wives
Ibn Umar narrated: "Ghilan bin Salamah Ath-Thaqafi accepted Islam and he had ten wives in Jahiliyyah who accepted Islam along with him. So the Prophet ordered (him) to chose four (of them)."
What Has Been Related About A Man Who Accepts Islam While He Is Married To Two Sisters
Abu Wahb Al-Jaishani narrated that: He heard Ibn Fairuz Ad-Dhailami narrating from his father: "I went to the Prophet and said: 'O Messenger of Allah! I accepted Islam and I had two sisters (as wives).' So the Messenger of Allah said: 'Chose whichever of them you will.'" [Abu Wahb Al-Jaishani narrated from Ad-Dhahhak bin Fairuz Ad-Dailami from his father: "I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! I accepted Islam and I had two sisters (as wives).' So Messenger of Allah said: 'Chose whichever of them you will.'"]
(What Has Been Related About) A Man Who Buys A Slave Girl Who Is Pregnant
Ruwaifi bin Thabit narrated that : the Prophet said: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, then he does not levy his water on someone else's child."
What Has Been Related (About A Man) Who Captures A Slave Woman That Has A Husband, Is It Lawful For Him To Have Relations With Her?
Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri narrated: "We got some captives on the day of Awtas, and they had husbands among their peopled. They mentioned that to the Messenger of Allah, so the following was revealed: And women who are already married, except those whom your right hands posses.
What Has Been Related About The Dowry Of The Baghi
Abu Mas'ud Al-Ansari narrated: "The Messenger of Allah prohibited the price of a dog, the dowry of a fornicator, and the payment made to the fortune-teller."
What Has Been Related About A Man Is Not To Propose To A Woman Who Has Been Proposed To By His Brother
Abu Hurairah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "A man is not to sell over his brother's sale, nor is he to propose to whom his brother has proposed." Abu Bakr bin Al-Jahm narrated: "Abu Salamah bin Abdur-Rahman and I visited Fatimah bint Qais. She narrated to us that her husband had divorced her three times, and he did not leave her with anywhere to live nor any wealth. She said: 'He left ten Aqfizah for me with the son of his uncle: five were of barley, five of wheat.' She said: 'I went to the Messenger of Allah and mentioned that to him.' She said: 'He said: 'He is correct.'" (She said: ) 'So he ordered me to complete my Iddah in the home of Umm Sharik. But then the Messenger of Allah said to me: "Umm Sharik's home is visited by Muhajirun, so spend your Iddah in the home of Ibn Umm Maktum, for there you can remove your garments and he will not see you. Then when your Iddah is completed and someone proposed to you come to me." 'So when my Iddah completed. Abu Jahm and Mu'awiyah proposed to me.' She said: 'I went to the Messenger of Allah and mentioned that to him, and he said: "As for Mu'awiyah, he is a man with no wealth, and as for Abu Jahm he is a man who is harsh with women." She said: 'Then Usamah bin Zaid proposed to me, and he married me. So Allah blessed me with Usamah.'"
What Has Been Related About Azl
Jabir narrated: "We said: 'O Messenger of Allah! We practice Azl, but the Jews claim that it is minor infanticide.' So he said: 'The Jews lie. When Allah wants to create it, nothing can prevent Him.'" Jabir bin Abdullah narrated: "We practiced Azl while the Qur'an was being revealed."
What Has Been Related About Azl Being Disliked
Abu Sa'eed narrated: "Azl was mentined before the Messenger of Allah and he said: 'Why would one of you do that?'"
What Has Been Related About Dividing Time For The Virgin And The Matron
Abu Qilabah narrated from Anas bin Malik, : He (Abu Qilabah) said: "If I wish, I could say: 'The Messenger of Allah said'" but he said: "The Sunnah when a man married a virgin after he already has a wife, is that he stays with her seven (nights). And when he married a matron when he already has a wife, he stays with her three (nights)."
What Has Been Related About Equality Between Co-Wives
Aishah narrated that: The Prophet would divide (his time) equally between his wives and said: "O Allah! This is my division in what I have control over, so do not punish me for what You have control over which I do not have control over." Abu Hurairah narrated that: The Messenger of Allah said: "When a man has two wives and he is not just between them, he will come on the Day of Judgment with one side drooping."
What Has Been Related About A Married Couple Who Are Idolaters, Then One Of Them Accepted Islam
Amr bin Shu'aib narrated from his father, from his grandfather: "The Messenger of Allah returned his daughter Zainab to Abul-As bin Ar-Rabi with a new dowry and a new wedding." Ibn Abbas narrated: "The Prophet returned his daughter Zainab to Abul-As bin Ar-Rabi after six years in the first marriage without renewing the marriage." Ibn Abbas narrated: "A man became a Muslim during the time of the Prophet, then his wife became a Muslim, so he said: 'O Messenger of Allah! She accepted Islam along with me, so return her to me.' So he returned her to him."
What Has Been Related About a Man Who Died Before Stipulating The Dowry For Her
Alqamah narrated that : Ibn Mas'ud was asked about a man who married a woman and he did not stipulate the dowry for her, and he did not enter into her until he died. So Ibn Mas'ud said: "She gets the same dowry as other women, no less and no more, she has to observe the Iddah, and she gets inheritance." So Ma'qil bin Sinan Al-Ashja'I stood and said: "The Messenger of Allah judged the same as you have judged regarding Birwa bint Washiq, a woman of ours." So Ibn Mas'ud was happy about that.